Today marks the last day of my single life. And despite the many remarks chastising me for getting married so young, or in the middle of a school semester, I still stand by this decision as one of the greatest and timeliest ones I have made.
However, those remarks impress upon me. I must share with you why getting married in unfavorable circumstances does not faze me (for the most part, anyways).
Many view marriage as an indication that the man and woman are ready to begin a family, therefore marriage can only lead to children. I know of many couples (both LDS and otherwise) who are well one in their life and have not had children. These couples are among the happier ones I have met in my short time here.
A couple hundred years ago, marriage was a way to improve one’s circumstances. If a woman came from a poor family, her father would promise her to a wealthy, yet unpleasant, gentleman. Only very recently has the notion of marrying for love really been accepted in our society.
Jacob and I have been together for a little over two years. We are in no way rushing into this decision, but in fact have spent a lot of time considering the implications, pros and cons of getting married.
Though I do not want to speak on his behalf, marriage is more an emotion state than a physical state of being. For quite some time, I have longed to have that commitment and closeness only marriage brings: the reassurance that I will always have love to return to after all that I longed for fell through. The knowledge that I will not have to face my depression alone, or that I have someone else to bounce my crazy ideas off of. The evidence that I deserve love, that I can chase my dreams. I have found that and so much more in Jacob.
Tomorrow we will be sealed for time and all eternity. I can’t think of a person more deserving of my life than the man I am pledged to give it to tomorrow morning.