Yesterday, I was at church with Jacob talking about how much our church emphasizes the family. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints preaches that families are essential to god’s plan and can be together forever. If you would like to learn more about the principle, you can go here for more information.
Jacob and I go to a married student ward and there is a lot of importance placed on having kids there. However, Jacob and I aren’t interested in having kids. That decision may change, but for now it is where we stand. Because of that, there is little place in that ward’s culture for those who aren’t really interested in having kids. Not a lot of people really seem to respect that.
I have a journal that I take specifically only to church. I’d like to include what I wrote on this subject:
“I’ve learned a lot from Jacob that God gave us agency for a reason. As children of God, we have a right to that agency, but also the responsibility to respect the agency of others. The Lord will deal with their choices according to the knowledge and judgement of an omnipotent, omniscient, and omniamorous god that he is.
We do not have the proper knowledge to accurately judge others. Even though the church teaches that we should have a family and prepare for it, how do we know that it isn’t in God’s plan for some not to have a traditional family?
We, as children of God, should work to have equal rights, responsibility and respect for all, love for all. Even with homosexual, even with those who “break” God’s commandments (though I hesistate to say anything concerning criminals. I do not want to suggest anything, as I do not know how it applies to them).
We still need to respect and in some instances provide their agency. God will deal with their choices later, we need to help them utilize the one great gift God has given all of us.”
Even if you don’t believe in God, this argument still warrants consideration. We as human beings are flawed creatures. We do not have a perfect knowledge and therefore are not fully capable of accurately judging others. We have collectively agreed that the human right to choose is important. I believe that right should be made available to all. As we recognize the importance of this right, we also need to recognize the importance of respecting that right for others, not only for ourselves.